Test your knowledge
How well do you really know him?
Date rape often happens when you meet someone for the first time – like at a party. But it also happens with people you know well – even your boyfriend, your husband or a ‘good’ friend.
Try this quiz and see how well you really know him and can trust him. Be truthful in your answers, then check your score.
1. Does he really like you?
a). Yes. He likes me for who I am.
b). Well, he seems to like me.
c). I wonder what he really thinks of me.
d). He’s friendly when he’s just with me, but when his mates are there it’s like I don’t exist.
2. Does he give you freedom?
a). Yes, he lets me be myself.
b). Most of the time.
c). It’s a tricky issue – I don’t really push it.
d). He freaks out if I even talk to a guy.
3. Does he respect you?
a). Yes, he really listens to me.
b). Of course he does (I think …).
c). I’ve never really thought about it.
d). He doesn’t even know what the word means!
4. Does he ever scare you?
a). No, I feel completely safe.
b). I don’t think so.
c). It’s true, sometimes he does scare me.
d). When he gets angry, he’s really dangerous.
5. Can you say ‘no’ to him?
a). Yes! We both respect each other’s limits.
b). Most of the time.
c). I try to just agree – it’s easier.
d). I never say no to him – he’s ‘the boss’.
6. Does he put you down?
a). No. Why would he?
b). Occasionally, I suppose.
c). Sometimes he embarrasses me in front of my friends or his friends.
d). Always! It’s like everything’s my fault.
7. Does he push you to do things you don’t want to do?
a). Never. He respects me.
b). I don’t think so.
c). Yes, it can be very annoying.
d). All the time – but that’s what relationships are all about I suppose.
8. Has he ever forced you to have sex?
a). No. If I say ‘no’, he understands.
b). Well, I wouldn’t say ‘forced’ but I don’t always like it.
c). Once or twice.
d). Whatever he wants, and whenever he wants it, he gets it.
Your score
Nearly all As – you know him well and can trust him.
Mostly Bs – not a disaster, but he may not be the man you think he is.
Mostly Cs – alarm bells should be ringing.
Mostly Ds – get out immediately.
